How to build self confidence that will last a lifetime
Words shape a childs self-image. Hurtful words, no matter how unintended, can scar children for a lifetime just as uplifting words can help them develop the self-confidence they will need to succeed throughout their lives. How you talk to and treat your child will have a lasting impact on them. Constantly pointing out the negative about a child how he doesnt clean up his room after playing, how she doesnt keep up with you when youre walking fast, or how he doesnt get perfect scores in school will result in your child having a negative self-image.
http://meta4kids.com.au 1 Copyright 2007 Stuart Walter How to Build Self-Confidence That Will Last a Lifetime Words shape a childs self-image. Hurtful words, no matter how unintended, can scar children for a lifetime just as uplifting words can help them develop the self-confidence they will need to succeed throughout their lives. How you talk to and treat your child will have a lasting impact on them. Constantly pointing out the negative about a child how he doesnt clean up his room after playing, how she doesnt keep up with you when youre walking fast, or how he doesnt get perfect scores in school will result in your child having a negative self-image. Every parent has to reprimand or to criticize their children to a point. Its natural to the learning and to the growing process. However, be sure that you offer even more praise than criticism. Praise lifts up children where criticism, even though it may not be intended to do so, can often break them down, especially if thats all a child hears. Seven Simple Ways to Instill Self-Confidence Helping your child build self-confidence now is essential to how he or she copes with life in the future, and its something thats fairly easy and wont disrupt your lives. In fact, it will enhance both your life and your childs life. Say I love you Tell your children you love them often and, just as important, show your children how much you love them through your actions. Kiss them after you tuck them in at night. Hug them before they go to school. Be their biggest cheerleader and the safe place they can turn when they need to talk or to vent. http://meta4kids.com.au 2 Copyright 2007 Stuart Walter Be positive when talking about your child Always be positive when talking about your child, when he is within earshot, to family and friends. Save the complaining for a time when your child is not around. Talking negatively about children, especially to others, when they can hear can result in embarrassment and shame and can damage their self-confidence. Give your child responsibility Everyone wants to feel needed. Children are no different. Give your child responsibility in the house by assigning them chores that are age-appropriate. For example, you may have your five-year-old clean off the dinner table and load the dishes into the dishwasher. Or, your three-year-old may be charged with making sure all the dirty clothes are in the laundry basket. In addition to teaching your child responsibility, chores help them develop self-confidence in knowing they can do a job and do it well. Do not minimize or dismiss a childs feelings A meme is making its rounds on social media that touches perfectly on this concept: If you want your kids to tell you the important things when they are older, listen to them when they are younger because when they are little everything is important. Minimizing or dismissing a childs feelings can make him feel as though his feelings arent important. Show interest in what your child has to say. What hes told you may not seem like a big deal to you but if it wasnt a big deal to him he wouldnt have brought it up. Separate the action from your child Children dont always listen nor do they always do what theyre supposed to do. That doesnt make them bad. It makes them normal. However, if you constantly tell a child that shes done something bad, shes going to start believing that she is a bad kid. http://meta4kids.com.au 3 Copyright 2007 Stuart Walter Be sure to separate the action from your child. Maybe your child got mad and kicked you or another family member. Instead of yelling at her for being bad, say something like, Youre a good kid and hitting is not nice or acceptable. In other words, youre affirming that shes a good kid, and that shes done a not-so-good thing. Create attainable goals Kids who feel a sense of accomplishment build self-esteem. Encourage your childs independence by creating attainable goals. You might encourage her to dress herself, make her own bed, or put her night clothes on before bed. Praise her for a job well done when she completes the task. She will feel a sense of accomplishment and her self-confidence will grow stronger by knowing she can do what you have asked. Nurture your childs sense of self-trust Children often go straight to their parents when faced with a problem. Parents naturally want to help their children. Let your child learn how to deal with problems on her own. Listen to what she has to say and encourage her to come up with a solution. A child who trusts her own judgment will grow into a self-confident adult. Self-confidence and self-esteem arent concrete. Despite everything you do to nurture your childs sense of self-confidence, he will have days when he doesnt feel it. We all face cracks in our self-esteem and our self-confidence. Help your child overcome those waves of emotion by reading The Ocean together, a story that helps calm children when they are emotionally unsettled. Just the surface of the ocean changes with the conditions around it so to children are changed by conditions and our bodies are 80+% water. http://meta4kids.com.au 4 Copyright 2007 Stuart Walter About the Author My name is Stuart Walter and I am a professionally trained Clinical Hypnotherapist, I specialise in elite sports and business performance. I work with people to maximise performance, attitude and results. My clients include State, National, Commonwealth and World Champions, within the walls of my professional offices in Brisbane, Australia, many lives have been transformed forever. However, it is as a father that I continue to experience the greatest pleasure in seeing the enormous growth and development that occurs when children are provided with the opportunity to release the endless potential and abilities that lie within. Having been around Hypnotherapy and natural therapies all of my life (both my parents were practitioners), I know the abilities we all have within us. As a parent myself, I marvel each and every day at the growth and development of my own son as he learns, lives, explores and evolves. He makes me laugh, he makes me cry and leaves me speechless with his antics, knowledge and ability to live and learn. Creating champions is in my blood and I am pleased to be able to share my passion and abilities with you in creating the path in life for your own little champions. Stuart Walter Stuart Walter Creator of Meta4Kids. Download Here A STORY TO SUPPORT SELF CONFIDENCE AND SELF ESTEEM "THE OCEAN" Like your kids, the ocean is forever changing... different conditions, different seasons and different days. Some days it is calm and peaceful, other days it is unsettled. Our bodies are about 75% water. If, in times of change, your kids actions seem to be emotionally unsettled, this story will calm them.