Happiness, Practice of happiness

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Happiness

Practice of HAPPINESSDr.T.V.Rao MDDr.T.V.Rao MD1

Why Every One Wants to Be Happy We all want to be happy, and happiness is useful for other things, too. For example, happiness improves physical health, improves creativity, and even enables you to make better decisions.So, as part of a series on how to win at life with science and rationality, let's review the science of happiness.Dr.T.V.Rao MD2

Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word 'happy' would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.

- Carl JungThere are as many nights as days, and the one is just as long as the other in the year's course. God Created Every One to be HappyDr.T.V.Rao MD33Happiness is our Outlook to Life So happiness - isn't that the thing that all of us strive to find and keep? Nobody is happy all of the time, but some people are definitely more fulfilled than others. Studies on what makes people happy reveal that it doesn't have much to do with material goods or high achievement; it seems to whittle down to your outlook on life, and the quality of your relationships with the people around you.

Dr.T.V.Rao MD4Happiness is .. Factors that don't correlate much with happiness include: age, gender, parenthood, intelligence, physical attractiveness, and money (as long as you're above the poverty line). Factors that correlate moderately with happiness include: health, social activity, and religiosity. Factors that correlate strongly with happiness include: genetics, love and relationship satisfaction, and work satisfaction.Dr.T.V.Rao MD5Science Says Happiness is Genetic tooGenes account for about 50% of the variance in happiness. Even lottery winners and newly-made quadriplegics do not see as much of a change in happiness as you would expect. Presumably, genes shape your happiness by shaping your personality, which is known to be quite heritable.Dr.T.V.Rao MD6

Happiness is RelativeNever Absolute Happiness is relative in another sense, too: it is relative to your expectations. We are quite poor at predicting the strength of our emotional reactions to future events. We also overestimate the pleasure we will get from buying a nice car, getting a promotion, or moving to a lovely coastal city. So: lower your expectations about the pleasure you'll get from such expenditures.Dr.T.V.Rao MD7We can Overcome With Happiness While being "lost in the moment" may provide some of your happiest moments, research has also shown that when you're not in flow, taking a step outside the moment and practicing "mindfulness" - that is, paying attention to your situation, your actions, and your feelings - can reduce chronic pain and depression, reduce stress and anxiety, and produce a wide range of other positive effectsDr.T.V.Rao MD8Flow and Mindfulness People are happiest when they are in a state of "flow." Flow is the state you're in when you are fully engaged in a task that is interesting, challenging, and intrinsically rewarding to you. Dr.T.V.Rao MD9

Your Interaction with People Makes any Job Great If you have a positive outlook, you will make the best of any job, and if you have good relationships with people, you won't depend on your job to give your life a greater sense of meaning. You'll find it in your interactions with the people you care about. Dr.T.V.Rao MD10

Take up Challenging Tasks When a task is too easy, you'll be bored. Only when a task is challenging but achievable will you feel good about doing it.Dr.T.V.Rao MD11

Plan ahead overcome procrastination Improve your conscientiousness. Conscientiousness involves a variety of tendencies: useful organization, strong work ethic, reliability, planning ahead, etc. Each of these individual skills can be learned. Dr.T.V.Rao MD12

Find your Purpose Religion too Guides our Lives Find your purpose and live it. One benefit of religion may be that it gives people a sense of meaning and purpose. Without a magical deity to give you purpose, though, you'll have to find out for yourself what drives you. It may take a while to find it though, and you may have to dip your hands and mind into many fields. But once you find a path that strongly motivates you and fulfils you, take it.Dr.T.V.Rao MD13Make Your Partner Happy More importantly than anything else, if you can live with a partner whom you love and respect and who feels the same about you. Kiss and cuddle and compliment often and regularly buy unexpected little gifts. Share your triumphs and your troubles. Evidence shows that a good relationship will not only make you happier; it will enable you to live longer. Dr.T.V.Rao MD14Live closely to your Family Move to where other family members are- so you can see them more. We live in a mobile society, where people follow jobs around the country and sometimes around the world. We do this because we think increases in salary will make us happier, but the fact is that our relationships with our friends and family have a far greater impact on our happiness than our jobs doDr.T.V.Rao MD15Practice Mindfulness with Meditation Practice mindfulness regularly. When not in flow, step outside yourself and pay attention to how you are behaving, how your emotions are functioning, and how your current actions work toward your goals. Meditation may help.Dr.T.V.Rao MD16

Consumerism kills Happiness Avoid consumerism. The things you own do come to own you, in a sense. Consumerism leads to unhappiness. Unfortunately, you've probably been programmed from birth to see through the lens of consumerism. Dr.T.V.Rao MD17

Happiness is a State of Mind Fundamentally, recognise that happiness is a state of mind and not something which can be defined objectively. You can change your state of mind in many ways including these suggestions. Dr.T.V.Rao MD18

Spend less than You Earn

The figures may have changed and the decimal system may have arrived, but the lesson is still the same as when, Charles Dickens in "David Copperfield" had Mr Micawber opine: "Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen, nineteen, six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds, nought, and six, result misery". Dr.T.V.Rao MD19Happiness is a glass half Empty Be positive, look on the bright side, stay focused on success: so goes our modern mantra. But perhaps the true path to contentment is to learn to be a loserDr.T.V.Rao MD20

Avoid Negative Thinking Persons Don't be afraid to admit when you're down and need a lift. Conversely, if there's a person in your life who is a negative influence and who is dragging you down in some way, don't be afraid to remove such a person from your life.Dr.T.V.Rao MD21

Be happy with What you Have When you appreciate what you have, what you have appreciates in value. Being grateful for the goodness that is already evident in your life will bring you a deeper sense of happiness. Dr.T.V.Rao MD22

Do Something CreativeIt might be writing stories or poems; it might be painting pictures or learning to play an instrument; it might be gardening or growing food.Learn to work with computers Dr.T.V.Rao MD23

Neither borrow or Lend Money without a True PurposeShakespeare put it in "Hamlet", "Neither a borrower nor a lender be". Don't borrow money unless you absolutely have to (for instance, to buy a house or car). Don't lend money - even to relatives - unless you genuinely don't mind if it's not repaid. Dr.T.V.Rao MD24

Dealing with the Problems One way of dealing with a difficult problem is to imagine how you will feel about that problem next week, next month, next year. Now try to bring those feelings into the present. It will give you a sense of perspective. Problems rarely look so formidable in retrospect. Erase Problems find SolutionsDr.T.V.Rao MD25

Make Will When You are AliveMake your wish to ContinueDetailing the arrangement for your funeral and the dispersion of your assets. The only thing certain about your life is that it will end, so have peace of mind that the circumstances that follow your death will as far as possible be as you wish them to be. Dr.T.V.Rao MD26

Smiling is the Best Practice of HappinessScience suggests that when you smile, whether you feel happy or not, your mood will be elevated. Dr.T.V.Rao MD27

Happiness is a glass half EmptyBe positive, look on the bright side, stay focused on success: so goes our modern mantra. But perhaps the true path to contentment is to learn to be a loserDr.T.V.Rao MD28

Happiness in Our Life is Like Retribution Unless We Can Make Someone Happy We cannot Be HappyEmaildoctortvrao@gmail.comDr.T.V.Rao MD29

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